Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is when one “family or household member” tries to control another through abuse, violence or manipulation.  The "Cycle of Violence" theory of domestic violence was first introduced by Lenore Walker.  Walker identified three phases that these relationships tended to cycle through:

• Tension building phase:  This phase is typically referred to as the “walking on eggshells” phase.  The abuser may become increasingly jealous, short tempered or paranoid.  The victim will often try to protect his or her self by placating the abuser.  Unfortunately, there is nothing the victim can do to change the behavior of their abusive partner – except to leave.
• Explosive phase: This phase is when the abuser becomes violent. In addition to physical attacks, a batter might break objects in the presence of the victim, threaten to take their child away from the victim, isolate the victim, and emotionally abuse the victim. During this phase, victims are often too frightened to seek out the help they need.
• Honeymoon phase: The abuser appears remorseful and promises not to abuse the victim in the future.  The abuser is charming, caring, gentle and affectionate.  He or she may present their victim with gifts, go out of their way to do nice things for them, and generally make their victim feel accepted and loved.

Walker's theory suggests that the explosive phase will lead back into the honeymoon phase and the cycle of violence continues until the victim leaves the abuser.  Once an abusive act takes place in a relationship, the abuse almost always reoccurs.  In fact, it tends to become more severe.  If this is happening in your relationship, obtain an Emergency Order of Protection immediately, get medical attention for any injuries, take photographs of your injuries and any damage and save anything that proves your side of the story.

The attorneys at the Law Office of Patricia G. Cartwright, P.C. have received specialized domestic violence and sexual assault training under the Illinois Domestic Violence Act and Illinois Sexual Assault Act.  Our attorneys have extensive experience and overwhelming success in assisting domestic violence victims and defending alleged perpetrators of domestic violence.  You and your family deserve to be safe from abuse and live in peaceful and loving relationships.